When I was little, I got told once that love is when you put the needs of others before your own and that definition got programmed in my head just like all the things do when you are old enough to ask Socratic questions but young enough to not be able to answer them. You think life is what you think it is, you are told that lying is bad and you are not to do that no matter what.
Then a day comes when realities of this world dawn upon you and as Faiz puts it ;
‘ Kulney lagaey har symth tilasmat k daar’
That is when you realize that your parents are such hypocrites they give you lectures about good and bad but they make you lie to the guests.
It is like the story of Galileo; he was the first person to have stated that it is the earth that revolves around the sun, when the church of the middle ages had stated that the sun is what revolves around the earth. Galileo was charged of blasphemy and imprisoned. While he had stated the truth, he was wrong so, if you go in the details of these things and the concept of existentialism you see that good and bad are very subjective terms and religion has left their details in the tones of grey. There are circumstances under which it is okay to lie, like Shakespeare says, ‘nothing is good or bad, your thinking makes it so.’ The strong came up with this ‘lying is bad’ just so they could over power the weak.
I believe that the way Shakespeare portrays love is not what love can be for real. He always stated the beloved to be high on a pedestal and out of reach and I think that is bullshit, there are three stages of love; mental, spiritual and physical after achieving these can you only fall in love we are humans we need our five senses to be stimulated that is our physical reality and John Donne was the first person to have showed me the real form of love;
‘Love's mysteries in souls do grow,
But yet the body is his book.’